Chapter 44: I Deleted My Dating Apps ft. The Baseball Player and The Namecaller

5. The Apps Don’t Care About Safety

Besides Bumble, which is female-founded and even still a bit questionable, I really do not think that the apps care about safety. They really don’t care about single women. Let’s not forget that it took MONTHS for someone from Hinge to contact me when I tried to report The Stalker. I’ve had guys find this blog, find my Facebook, and just generally weird me out from the very little information I provide on my profile. And that’s only okay when I do it. 

Just kidding, but seriously, I just don’t think they care about the people using them. Like this article says, they really don’t care about single women. It’s actually in their best interest to make us feel bad about ourselves. They allow us to continue getting dick pics and requests for nudes at 6 AM when we’re trying to meet someone serious. And I’m not going to let them do it to me anymore.

6. I Want to Get Out of My Comfort Zone

Obviously, it’s a lot easier to sit at home in my sweatpants eating popcorn and swiping than it is to go out and approach a guy I find attractive. But, I’d rather meet someone that way than because I accidentally swiped when I jumped while watching a scary movie. I’d also love to have more of a reason to ask my friends to set me up. I’m down for a blind date! Ultimately, dating apps have just become too comfortable and I want to push myself out of that safety net. 

7. Maybe I Shouldn’t Be Meeting These Guys

I saw a really interesting TikTok with a girl saying that maybe the reason why a lot of the time people you meet on the apps don’t work is that you were never meant to meet them. That’s probably not entirely true. I know people who’ve gotten married so obviously, some of these people were meant to meet. But I do get where she’s coming from.

People feel safer being rude on apps because they don’t know your friend group, so they don’t have to worry about being awful and looking bad to a group of people. So many people meet their partners at work, or because of a shared hobby, or a beloved vacation spot – it’s hard to figure out what you have in common with someone that realistically, you’d probably never meet otherwise.

8. It’s Boring

I am so tired of asking and answering the same questions over and over again. I’ve had the same conversation so many times. I’ve had the same pickup line used on me. I’ve seen the same photos and just had the same stale experiences with guys who all kind of meld together after a while. And honestly, I don’t think I can handle seeing another fish picture. 

There aren’t any surprises on dating apps, even being ghosted and/or catfished is basically the expectation nowadays. I want dating to be fun again because right now, it’s not.

9. I Don’t Want to be a Singleholic Anymore

Don’t get me wrong, I have loved having this time of being single and dating myself. I’m absolutely a better version of myself because of it. But I’m definitely nearing the point where I want to find someone I actually like and have something serious.

Most of my stories are with guys that I met on apps, and with the exception of The Rollercoaster, I have not had even a flicker of hope that any of them were my soulmate. Most of them were rude and/or dull, and what inspired me to make this blog in the first place. I’ve never really thought that I was going to meet the man of my dreams on an app – again, except Tony – and I want to put my best foot forward in the real world, not virtually. I think I’ll have much better luck finding someone that I can see a future with meeting in person, not while swiping on an app.

So, my apps are deleted and honestly, it feels amazing. If you still want your apps, that’s amazing, and best of luck to you. But I’ve realized that they aren’t for me and there are things I’d rather spend my time doing. 

I have one more story from a dating app for you and then after that, we’ll see what the real world brings me and my love life. I’m not going to lie, I’m hoping to not have too many stories left. But until I’m meant to meet the man of my dreams, I’ll keep writing. Wish me luck!

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